Talk about a wake up call. 

The other day I was taking the body composition of a client I've been working with for years.  This client has been struggling with their weight for some time now. We've gone over the nutrition program I've provided. We've made modifications to make it easier to follow. I offered coaching calls and reminder texts to be sent to assist my client in staying on track. I offered to accompany my client to the grocery store to assist them in making good choices that are in-line with their meal plan. We even discussed starting a support group for individuals to provide a sense of community, swap recipes, and help keep each other accountable to staying on track (similar to the Master Mind Group philosophy I spoke of in the previous post). Nothing seemed to be working. This client would lose 4-7lbs and then put it right back on a few weeks later.  Needless to say I was frustrated because I could not seem to come up with a strategy to assist this client in reaching one of their originally stated goals.

Then during one of our body composition check-ins (to see how progress was going) my client stated, "This is really a waste of time".  I paused for a second, shocked at the candor. Then I asked, "Why do you say that?" My client then went on to share that they had no real desire to modify their eating habits, and was not really coming to the training sessions for that purpose. This person went on to state that the issue they had come for had been resolved (they were no longer in pain), yet they kept coming because of the other things they were receiving from the session -- the encouragement, reflective feedback, and other strategies that are my unique brand of training.

And there in my face stood my own ignorance. I had taken my client's original concerns with pain and weight loss as being the major reason (the value) they sought out my services, when in fact those items were lower on their list of things to accomplish than I realized. This client went on to share with me how the philosophy and strategies I use as encouragement and motivation have been helping them change their lives. I had mistakenly defined my value to this client as purely physical.

What I realized is that I had allowed my values to dictate what my client's goals were because of the nature of the service I provide. In fact, my client was less interested in the "training" aspect so to speak, and more interested in my philosophies, strategies and reflective feedback techniques. These aspects of the "training session" held a higher value to them.

Which of course leads me to my overall point. Do you know what values you have? I mean seriously, have you gotten clear, and written down what your major values are? Because your values are the axle around which the wheel of your life turns.

This client reminded me that my value of wanting to produce physical change was limited. In fact, she was clear that her value of "training session" was much bigger than just physical transformation and getting rid of pain.

If you're not clear on your values, you can't set realistic goals and achieve them. Take the time to write down what is important to you. What motivates you. Honoring your what's important to you, your values, helps you achieve the goals you set.

Write it down, and share your story with me.